If you cannot reach your doctor or you don't have one, seek care today. If it is evening, watch the symptoms and seek care in the morning. If the symptoms get worse, seek care sooner. Home Treatment If you are angry, hostile, or violent, it is important to find help.
Think before you act. Take time to stop and cool down when you feel yourself becoming angry. Count to 10, or practice some other form of mental relaxation. Recognize feelings that often lead to angry outbursts. Anger and hostility may be a symptom of unhappy feelings or depression about your job, your relationship, or other aspects of your personal life.
Come up with a reasonable explanation of why you are angry. If a person triggers your anger, suggest to yourself that perhaps the person is having a bad day. Avoid situations that trigger your anger, such as doing errands at less-busy times if standing in line bothers you. Express anger in a healthy way: Go for a short walk or jog.
Draw, paint, or listen to music to release the anger. Write in a daily journal. Use "I" statements, not "you" statements, to discuss your anger. Say "I don't feel valued when my needs are not being met" instead of "You make me mad when you are so inconsiderate. Exercise regularly. Eat a balanced diet. Do not skip meals. Try to get 8 hours of sleep each night. Limit your use of alcohol, and do not use illegal drugs. Practice a relaxation technique such as yoga , meditation , or tai chi.
Explore other resources that may be available through your job or your community. Contact your human resources department at work to see whether you have services available through an employee assistance program. Contact your local hospital, mental health facility, or health department to see what types of programs or support groups are available in your area.
Symptoms to watch for during home treatment Call your doctor to evaluate your feelings if your anger, hostility, or violent behavior becomes more frequent or severe. Prevention To prevent anger and hostility and to avoid violence: Seek positive ways to resolve problems. Arguing can be okay, even healthy, as long as it does not turn violent. Take steps to lead a healthy life. Engage in some type of regular physical activity.
Exercise is one of the best ways to release all types of stress, including anger. A brisk walk is a good way to start. For more information, see the topic Fitness. Remember to drink plenty of water. Establish a healthy sleep pattern. Try to get the same amount of sleep each night. Limit your use of alcohol, and do not use other drugs, such as cocaine, crack, or methamphetamines. Alcohol and drugs may make your feelings of anger and hostility worse and make them even harder to handle.
For more information, see the topic Alcohol and Drug Problems. He may not know how to feel about what he's seen or done, and he may not expect his feelings to change over time. Warriors can experience moments of profound guilt, shame and self-hatred. He may have experienced a momentary elation at "scoring one for the good guys," then been horrified that he celebrated killing a human being. He may view himself as a monster for having those emotions, or for having gotten used to killing because it happened often.
He's had to cultivate explosive anger in order to survive in combat. He may have grown up with explosive anger a violent, alcoholic father? He may have been only 19 when he first had to make a life and death decision for someone else.
What kind of skills does a nineteen-year-old have to deal with that kind of responsibility? To this day, the thought of that boy can wake me from a sound sleep and leave me staring at the ceiling. He may believe that he's the only one who feels this way ; eventually, he may realize that at least other combat vets understand.
On some level, he doesn't want you to understand, because that would mean you had shared his most horrible experience, and he wants someone to remain innocent. He doesn't understand that you have a mama bear inside of you, that probably any of us could kill in defense of someone if we needed to.
Imagine your reaction if someone pointed a weapon at your child. Would it change your reaction if a child pointed a weapon at your child? When you don't understand, he needs you to give him the benefit of the doubt. He needs you also to realize that his issues really aren't about you, although you may step in them sometimes.
Truly, the last thing he wants is for you to become a casualty of his war. While some studies have tracked small changes in personality over time, such as changes related to the aging process, there is little research on why these changes occur, or on what sorts of life experiences might contribute to the changes. Jackson's research team saw the military as the perfect laboratory in which to test for personality-changing life experiences.
For example, recent slogans in the United States, such as 'Be all you can be,' 'Accelerate your life,' and 'Aim high,' all imply that military experiences affect life trajectories. Where, from the moment you wake up in the morning until you go to bed at night, someone is actively working to break down anything that's individual about you and to build up something else in its place. Researchers tested the men's personalities during high school and re-tested them three times in the six years following either civilian or military service.
Not surprisingly, all of the participants scored higher on measures indicative of maturity, such as increased conscientiousness and less neuroticism. And while the military group did show some increases in measures of agreeableness, the change was much lower than that measured for participants in the civilian service group. Jackson's findings may offer a new explanation for why military service members tend to differ from civilians in their rates of divorce, longevity, salaries and health issues.
Materials provided by Washington University in St. But try to give yourself some space from this immediate emotional reaction and look at the facts instead. Most people consider hatred one of the strongest emotions , if not the strongest. It would probably take quite a bit for you to hate someone you care about, right?
A good distraction can help occupy your mind and redirect your focus from unwanted thoughts. This can make it easier to shake the feeling everyone hates you. Hobbies like reading , gardening , and video games can distract you while improving your mood and relieving negative feelings, so make sure to create time for yourself in your daily life. People sometimes confuse healthy anger and frustration with hatred. You and your partner consistently disagree on where you should settle down.
They want to return to their hometown, while you want to explore a new big city. To resolve this situation, all parties directly involved should have a chance to express their feelings. Then, work together to find a solution that works for everyone. If you feel as if others have singled you out or treated you unfairly, bring this up. It may not have been intentional. Letting people know how they made you feel can reduce the chances of it happening again.
Negative self-talk and feelings of self-loathing often contribute to the belief that everyone else hates you too. Do you often talk down to yourself? It can also eventually contribute to depression , anxiety , and other emotional distress.
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